Early Sex In Dating

I believe the majority of people that read my status-post are involved in a relationship in one way or another, yet I still must ask - if in today’s society men and woman are supposed to be so liberated why do they continue to believe and think that sex in the early stages of dating will ruin the way a man sees them as a person and vise versa? If that is a concern then by all means wait, yet if sex is going to be an issue if the relationship prospers why not get that portion out of the way? Yes, that is a question that remedies an answer. Also, why should two consenting adults who are independent worry about what other folks thinks about them? That is just adding more worry-lines, panic and concern to an already stressful relationship. Those things hinder something that's supposed to be pleasurable. A man might-not ever see that woman again and vise versa so what seems to be the problem? Is it fear that the man the woman has decided to have sex with will somehow start telling other people that he had sex with her on the first date or shortly after their encounter? Is it fear that a man needs to satisfy his sexual desires early-on before making a commitment will result in a low or lowered self-esteem? I would say that both of these and other fears are childish thoughts that a mature, independent and liberated adult should not be having. Don't go breaking any laws or anything along those lines, yet I would simply say "BE CAREFUL" "HAVE FUN" "SMILE" and enjoy your life as you see fit not as others see fit for you, especially if those others don't provide for you.

Now in the words of a famous singer "If You Like It You Should Have Put a Ring On It!" Might I mention she speaks in a past-tense, yet if you have waited so long or too long and that special someone decides to move-on because you want your bell to have a ring on it before even getting your bell rung then that's just too bad for you. Also, women need to realize that a man can sing the exact same chorus. Some men already think in this way because not only are some men well-endowed they still hold shivery, love, and respect for women. A man can give good sex just as good as a woman can. I would simply say; "Patience is a virtue," yet if you don't desire to wait months or years then get your bell rung and decide later if he or she was good enough to "put a ring on it." It could very well be an instance where they are or were not. Because you decided to prolong the circumstance you now have to deal with, Um "BAD SEX!" in your relationship which we all know leads to cheating, deceiving and much more. Also, keep in mind that you plus that man or that woman are not getting any younger and neither are your body parts so before gravity sinks in, you have to take a little blue pill for breakfast, lunch and/or dinner, pornography is your go-to and/or cob webs develop I would simply say "BE CAREFUL" HAVE FUN" "SMILE" and enjoy your life as you see fit, not as others see fit for you. especially if those others don't provide for you.

Certainly there is always a dilemma with good and bad sex and that is "Great Sex!" The great sex that makes you cry. Nobody knows why that happens, yet it happens. What also happens with great sex are the great lines that come out of the mouths of folks that happen to tumble into having great sex. Such lines like; "I Think We Could BE Good Together." The sudden and unexpected, "I Love You!" And of course my favorite the "Marriage Proposal!" To my understanding and those of many other Behavioral Health Specialist is that sex enhances the dopamine and adrenaline as well as increases the blood flow to the direction of that particular body that is being the most stimulated. With all that going on the brain has seconds of relaxation, thoughts go blank and the mind empties. Those moments in time are what preachers call "A Moment of Silence," romance writers call "Ecstasy," professors call "Bliss," gynecologist call "The Time of Conception," movie producers call it "The Start of a Beautiful Friendship," music artist call it "A Hit," yet I like to call it "Dusk to Dawn!" Dusk for the men because there comes the two' o-clock in the morning "Booty-Call," the eleven'o-clock a.m. "Quickie" and also the, "I'll See You Tonight" phone message. It doesn't stop there. Dawn for the woman because there comes the "Breakfast in Bed," the sexy slurring of the voice saying things like; "Good-Morning Baby" and also the all-day calls to schedule "Brunch, Lunch and Dinner Dates." The mind is no-longer functioning at its full capacity especially if it has been banged repeatedly on a headboard, inebriated, drugged or blinded by that little blue pills ability to induce infatuations, lust and much-much more. Therefore, the mind is not capable, cannot and/or refuses to calculate how many times great sex has happened, if it will continue and what happens once every image, thought and everything-else has passed and ended. Great sex is just that, yet many folks like to label it as their great sex encounter with who is now "The One," or "They have found the man/woman of their dreams" and my favorite they think they're "In Love!" If someone's mind is geared in these thoughts after having great sex or any sex for that matter they should be institutionalized. Why? There is much more to developing a lasting relationship beyond the bedroom, yet the initial thesis here is my proposed question - "Why are people critical to having sex in the early stages of dating?" A relationship is not a key factor. If a man or a woman decides to bypass all the evening dinners, the late movies, the walks in the park, so-forth and so-on and decides to head-off to the bedroom instead to see if sex is going to be a concern if and when trying to develop a lasting relationship why do folks get nervous, jittery, start name-calling and labeling? I would simply say; "BE CAREFUL," HAVE FUN," "SMILE" and enjoy your life as you see fit, not as others see fit for you, especially if those others don't provide for you.

Allow me to share something I am a sexual indulging individual which also means that I am well aware that after being wined and dined, the making out and those late hourly long telephone conversations I and the person on the other end of the dating relationship will eventually succumb to each other's temptingness, be it the course of action. If I am not exact feasible as I am theoretical then that man that I have enticed will consider me, as they say; "All Bark and No Bite." The situation goes vice versa. In laymen's terms I don't wish to be stuck trying to develop a lasting relationship with someone that is not to my standards in the sack. Therefore, I will occasionally bypass all the hoopla when dating and get down to what will hinder me from keeping said gentleman at my side. Believe that my tactics have caused men to flee, become afraid as well as stir-up negative thoughts. Still for me it is always worth it. Because in the end I don't have to sneak around looking for that someone that not only has potential to be a lasting partner verbally, kindly, but physically as well. The latter is always the latter pertaining to sexual relationships when dating which isn't always a good thing. I would simply say; "BE CAREFUL," "HAVE FUN," "SMILE," and enjoy your life as you see fit, not as others see fit for you. Especially if those others don't provide for you.

With all sexual relations use caution and proceed with an open mind. Do not blindly jump into any sexual relation without the worst of outcomes running through the mind. I believe that's how people get caught-up and then hurt. One should always expect the unexpected and never be one for letting down your guard to the bad outcomes that can occur in a relationship. Such things as him or her not wanting to date again after being intimate or him/her telling several lies about themselves before telling one-thing that is true about themselves. It is also good to keep the best of outcomes running through the mind as well. Be observant to the scintilla of things when developing a sexual relationship. Such things as Do they carry protection? How many times have they done this? Is having sex early on when dating a lifestyle or do they actually desire to settle-down at some-point? If it is a lifestyle do they want you to be a part of it? (that particular question is directed at "Swingers" and those folks that have an "Open Marriage.") How did they react or how will they react and/or respond to such forwardness and behavior? Will coaching be a factor and if so how long will it or should it take? Keep those questions in mind to allow room for light discussions that opens doors to a line of communication. A sexual relation is not something that is to be tinkered with. A lot of heartache, mental strain/stress and much more comes with getting involved with someone. I dare not forget to mention the many communicable diseases. Do not let any man or woman toy with your emotions. To that end I would simply say; "BE CAREFUL," HAVE FUN," "SMILE" and enjoy your life as you see fit, not as other see fit for you. Especially if those others don't provide for you.